I was going to post a reply to your blog, but for some reason it comes up with a whole heap of error messages: eeek! I will keep trying, and add you to my sidebar so it will remind me :-)
But anyways! I really enjoy that closeness that attachment parenting affords: I find it's good for bub and good for the caregiver (whoever that may be: mum, childcare person, foster parent). The mother that I was discussing previously does have 3 under 3 (and is pregnant with her 4th), and I can see how for her to a point attachment parenting wouldn't work (particular with her personality). In saying that however, I manage to do it with her 3 children, when they visit me (they usually visit at least once a month for a weekend: who am I kidding? It happens a lot more than that and for longer periods of time!). In fact, I have had her get me "in trouble" for my partner chucking the littlest one (the one in the above piccie) in bed with me of a morning (when he leaves for work around 5ish) for her early morning bottle (and no, she rarely goes back to her own bed afterwards, but does cat-nap in our bed beside me until her brothers come in). Her mother's comment was "Oh...I don't do that because it will mean she will be awake earlier: I just normally go in, not say anything, chuck her a bottle and leave. I don't want my baby spoiled, because that will mean I won't get any sleep and she will cry all the time". Ummm... now where do I begin with what is wrong with that comment!?! I have never had any problem with getting her back to sleep: in fact she goes back to sleep much more happily than when she is just left where ever it is she is sleeping.
I personally don't see anything wrong with the co-sleeping (in those circumstances): I am a trusted caregiver for starters (clearly: I am always the first person she asks to look after her kids), secondly, Justin is rarely in the bed at the same time: it is usually just her and me (and then about an hour later, her 2 brothers). I know I would not have a problem for my own children if this was to happen in similar circumstances, with someone with whom I had a similar trusting relationship (Eg: family, Chis, Melissa, Amy, Ana etc). I say, if you are not happy for your kids to have that same level of physical contact etc with their care-giver as they do with you as a parent, you shouldn't have that person as their caregiver.
I do quite like the idea of slings etc: even though as this stage I have not had the opportunity to try them (more because the children I look after don't have any). It again is something that I am planning to implement with our foster kids (when we finally finish the assesements: they happen this week! Yah!). Which sort of sling did you find works the best? My partner and I have quite a size difference (I am barely 5 ft, weigh about 55kg, my other half: 6ft +, at least 100+ kg): on many of the websites that I have checked out they say this would mean my partner and I would have to get two different sized slings. Unless of course we just get one for me, because I would use it more often. But anyways.
Yes the co-sleeping was something that I was a little wary about! I was planning to put at least a bassinette in our room: I am just not sure as to how the lovely DOCS people would go with that :). But we will see.
From all the research I have done, and the physical evidence that I see day to day (in the kids I look after, and the little guy next door), attachment parenting is a good thing, and I cannot see how it would be a bad thing for these foster kids, who have had so much rough stuff happen to them. Yes, it would involve a little more time from me, and would mean less sleep for me (yes, mother of 3, I am very aware of that): but it doesn't really bother me. Essentially, I am not "signing up" to this to do it the easy way (so I can sit and watch TV all day): I am signing up simply to help these kids which need it so much. I think that you Janine, sum it up really well:
I'm not fostering to produce regulated little babies who sleep all night by four months and who are content to spend all day sitting in a baby chair, pusher or auto swing, I'm trying to help babies form a strong attachment to me and develope emotional resilience to deal with whatever the future holds for them (be it reunification or transition to adoption) so I keep them close to me as much as I can
So there :-P
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