Firstly I would to say to the justice system: you really have no idea. My mother needs and deserves a DVO...get a grip.
I have been doing a lot of reading of late. Fascinating, interesting books. Books to extend my knowledge of life, of the world.
This particularly hit me: (my aha moment as Oprah would say):
We think sometimes love can move mountains and I suppose it can sometimes.
But love is not effective against those truly without souls, the deeply damaged, the corrupted. It is naive and dangerous to think so. So anyone who
tries to rescue through marriage those who are beyond rescue has jumped in
the beast's cage and can't be surprised when he or she becomes lunch....
The question, the big question is why so many otherwise sane souls marry
with such an unerring eye for disaster? There is of course the rescue in
which we think we will find ourselves in reclaiming someone else. We think
the hard drinker, the angry man or woman will melt in our arms and become
transformed by our goodness. Behind that delusion lies another: we may really believe that only a damaged person whom we will serve dutifully would
Married: Anne Roiphe
Not that I necessarily think that this relates to my own marriage per se (even though I am sure certain parts of that perspective do: but I think that goes for any relationship), but I do think it sums up my parents marriage rather well.
I have also have read Jenny McCarthy's book : "Mother Warriors": a book about autism, it's links to vaccines and avenues for recovery...interesting and something I will research further.
Coincidentally, today I had my first aromatherapy/massage session. The therapist, Pauline, proved to be fascinating woman: whom as soon as I mentioned my autoimmune disease (Crohn's Disease) brought up autism (she has a son with it) in regards to our future children. I in turn pulled out "Mother Warriors" and said: yes, I know: (Mother Warriors mentions the collation between the two: a family history of auto immune disease and vaccines are often two factors present in kids with autism). And she gave me some really lovely oils that I can use at home. Yummy :-). But regardless, it was just lovely and relaxing.