Unfortunately you're not exactly being honest, Jo.
You attacked Ruth on Free Jinger. Viciously, explicitly, savagely. You insisted she was not real. You attacked someone who never harmed you (unless you thought that her getting attention that should be going to you was somehow an injustice...)
I never insisted that she was not real, nor did I attack her. I stated quite clearly that these were only my opinions, and pure speculation. In the interest of being open and honest I will include my original post from FJ.
I have noticed NLQ has stopped posting Ruth's story.
It is just speculation on my behalf, but maybe Vyckie is starting to question her story, too. You have to admit that it has gotten more and more extreme each time she posts.
To say nothing of the fact that she has started to post her series on her blog before NLQ (and I know for a fact that wasn't how it started: V asked her to do a series and Ruth agreed to allow them be published on NLQ).
I am the first to admit that I have had doubts about Ruth's story for quite sometime. I read a lot of the former fundie/QF blogs over a long period of time (and I write one) and have never questioned/doubted before.-----------------------------
You were proven wrong. In the very topic you chose to bolster your attack on her, you were proven wrong by Vicki continuing the series.
Did you apologize? To Ruth? To the other FJ board regulars?
No. You did not. You chose to vanish and flounce and play the martyr here, in dishonesty.
I did not vanish, or flounce. The reason I was not active on the board at the time was due to illness. I did however, return and explain my position more in depth as per below.
I know I haven't been commenting, but I have been very unwell, so forgive my absence.
Firstly, I have never emailed Ruth. And I agree whomever did, took it too far.
"Princessjo, you used to be a big supporter of Ruth on her blog, so starting this thread seems low. Really low."
You are quite correct in that I did comment on her blog a few times: but I comment on lots of blogs. At the time, I wanted to give her the benefit of the doubt: which I did do for about 12 months before speaking up, and raising my doubts.
"I'd be disappointed if I found out she was making it up - mainly because of the poor light that would cast on the other girls leaving ATI/Gothard/Fringe-Lunatic-Religionland families - but I wouldn't feel a personal sense of betrayal..."
I quite agree with Danger Pants statement here, minus the last little bit. For me, it would be a sense of betrayal, particularly as I am a former fundie myself.
"How can we know for sure any of the teen who got away stories are for real ? Unless they file for sexual abuse and go to a public trial, there can't be proofs. Everything happens inside the house so even though they decide to not be anonymous anymore that might not help. In Vyckie's case, she published QF works."
In my case, I filed for sexual abuse, and have the documents (and news stories) to prove it.
I would like to stress that like RHS, I had doubts, which I was simply raising. My intent was not to attack Ruth herself. I didn't comment at all on the first thread.
I still struggle with the concept that we can question people like Emily, but with anyone else? No, can't do that!! Then you are low person and a coward. In my case, I am neither of those things, and neither do I think anybody else here is. If we were to focus the vitriol on the person that wrote Ruth that horrible email, then maybe I could understand it a little more. But as it stands now, I can't understand at all.
Additionally, I had talked to Vyckie about my concerns in the past. I did let her know that I was raising my concerns on Free Jinger.
So you got some blowback. It was, to be truthful, nothing compared to the assault you made on another blogger's privacy. And you did NOT just attack Ruth. You attacked - tho' you may not realize that is what you did - every anonymous ex-fundie blogger, every sometime victim-of-sexism, and thus every poster on the Free Jinger board, too.
And gee whiz, some of the people you attacked took umbrage at that! Shocking, innit? Scandalous, that people who were attacked should be somewhat unhappy at that, and say so!
If you ever want to understand how fundies can lie about how they're doing harm, how abusees can go on to abuse, how people like your parents can claim that they are the innocent victims - just look in the mirror.
Better yet, grow up and apologize to the people you assaulted, starting with Ruth. And then start participating in communities as an actual grownup, not a drama llama.
Otherwise, you're just part of the problem too.
Okay. Okaayyy...I have spent my life looking in mirrors. They surround me everywhere, everyday.